If you’re of a particular age, Alanis Morisette wrote the definitive album about being burned in a relationship a decade ago with Jagged Little Pill. Maybe it’s playing on your CD player right now, as you read this, or you’ve got the MP3 playing on infinite loop as you mull over how to get your boyfriend backor maybe you’re sitting there wondering how to get your ex boyfriend back (or get back at him)
The first one is assessing how serious you are about restarting or boosting your relationship. Now, you wouldn’t be reading this article if you didn’t want to do this, but let’s step back a moment. If you’re feeling anxious, if you’re feeling like your world is revolving around your ex, you may be coming across as needy. Nothing, and we do mean nothing, pushes a guy away faster than being needy.
Well, stop it. You deserve better than that. If you’re obsessing about getting him back, we’ve got news for you. It ain’t gonna happen. He dumped your sorry butt for a reason, and being mopey about it isn’t going to fix the problem. For that matter, trying to make him pity you is the single best way to make sure that he leaves your life, at high speed, and never ever looks back.
So focus on the things that work.
OK, what you’re doing right now? It’s called projecting. And it isn’t helping. He’s going to read that hurt and that pity party in your head in the set of your shoulders, the look in your eyes, or, more than likely by the way you call him twice a day and bawl at him, IM him, or try to make him feel sorry for you. The only one feeling sorry for you is you, and until you stop, he isn’t going to want to be with you.
Take a different approach. Think about what your life was like before you found this guy. You had friends. You did some pretty cool stuff with them. They’re still out there, and you should gang with them and go do something fun. Get the hell out of the house.
The main thing you can do to get your ex boyfriend back is to be yourself. If you’re obsessing over it, you’re doing it wrong, and you’re only making matters worse. Establish your space, your boundaries and your own worth as a person rather than as half of a couple.
Who knows, maybe with a bit of time to see who you are without the filter of the breakup, his interest will rekindle. Or maybe you’ll decide he wasn’t worth all that mess anyway – and you’ll have learned something about yourself. Either way, keep yourself grounded, focused on the things that make your life fun with nobody else in it and hang out with your buddies. And stop asking “What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back”. Oh, and you can put that annoying Alanis Morisette CD back on the rack. It’s served it’s purpose.
The Keys To Getting Your Ex Back Quickly
